TechInAfrica – People in this digital, modern world are constantly struggling to win their wrestle against their own fear. Pressure, expectations, goals, circumstances—these are all the factors that beget fear. Fear of failing, fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of judgment. The list goes on and on and even the mightiest of person experience their deepest, darkest fears—the only thing that differs us from them is that they handle their fears much better.
So, what does the title of this article mean? How can my fears be my friend?
Whilst some people see fear as their biggest shortcomings, one should see one’s fears as means to construct a better framework for themselves. When you’re at the office, for example, how scared are you of being bitten by a shark? Or are you more scared of being yelled at by your boss? See, fear is entirely dependent on the context you’re in.
The good news is, most of the time, we are in control of the context. Not the other way around.
For example, if you’re afraid of being rejected, you can use that fear to anticipate potential answers, showing up early so you aren’t rushed, or simply being prepared. Or if you’re afraid of failing, you can implement that fear as fuel to better formulate the thing you’ve been working on.
The way I see it, fear is a double-sided blade. You can let it destroy you, or you can use it to plan the upcoming events. With that mindset, fear isn’t so bad, is it?
Erik Kruger, contributor at Entrepreneur, professed that fear is as potentially destroying as it is constructing. “Learn to master your feelings and the approach that you take towards the challenges and risks in your life, and you will not only feel lighter, but able to embrace fear as an old friend without becoming consumed by it,” he added.